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Should We Treat The People We Love Like Dogs?

My best friend can drive me bonkers talking in circles around me, but when my dog goes ape sh*t crazy at the front window when a poodle walks by, I’m unfazed.

My ex would leave me livid when he showed up the door 30 minutes late for dinner, yet my cat could throw up repeatedly and I’d patiently clean it up.

Where’s the disconnect?  Do we love our pets more than the people in our life?

Of course not.

I’m convinced the incredible love we feel for our dogs, cats, horses, and in fact all of our pets, comes from the knowing that we won’t have them forever.  It’s a very limited time that our paths are actually joined together – if we’re lucky a dog can live to be 14, a cat maybe 20, and because of this, every single day, every moment, is a gift.

They eat our shoes, mess up our homes and monopolize our time when we’re pulled in other directions, yet we love them anyways and instantly forgive them despite their many imperfections.

So why are there different rules between species?

There’s no doubt our pets love us unconditionally, while family and friends often play human games with love — they seem to love us when we’re good and in turn we love them when we deem their treatment of us kind.

Yet what if today, we decided to love the people in our life the way we love our pets?  What if we remembered that one day, they too will no longer be here with us?

Perhaps we could keep in mind that everything that drives us nuts about them will one day be a distant memory, and we might even find ourselves longing to hear them talk circles around us one last time, or experience ourselves opening the door to their tardy face once again, no matter how late they arrive.

Yes, I’m pretty sure that’s the way to do it.  Listen to your parent’s lecture as if it is the last one you’ll ever hear from them in this lifetime, clean up your partner’s dishes as though it’s the last dish they will eat from, and when family arguments ensue, remember that one day believe it or not, you will miss the sound of their voices.

The secret to love?  Let’s treat them all like dogs.

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10 Responses to “Should We Treat The People We Love Like Dogs?”

  1. g January 2, 2014 at 9:08 PM #

    but not all friends and lovers love us as unconditionally as our pets do . repetitive mistakes humans make can also be a lack of concern and consideration for others, whereas animals don’t know how to love other than with all they have, and always try their best.

  2. nicci jordan July 16, 2012 at 9:10 PM #

    If I treated everyone like I do my furry babies, everyone would show up at my home like the strays do…. lol.

  3. Gnomaste' June 4, 2011 at 1:26 PM #

    You apparently have saintly qualities, to still feel that way, caring for a Basenji line. Well said. Thx.
    smiling in the memories.

    • tamara June 4, 2011 at 6:13 PM #


  4. Elizabeth May 3, 2011 at 7:52 AM #

    ahhh, this post made me slightly tear with the fact that our “Houghton” (black cocker/jack russel mix) will not be with us forever. He is only 1 so we have lots of time. He is definitely treated like royalty. Here is a quick photo of the little guy.

    Great post!

    • tamara May 5, 2011 at 11:14 PM #

      I know Elizabeth, time flies too fast. Houghton sounds like a sweet combo of genetics!

  5. weighty September 26, 2010 at 11:40 PM #

    gonna send this to my mom

    • tamara September 30, 2010 at 4:39 AM #

      Glad you liked it!


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