Red hot holy rage twisted up my spine like slithering snakes log-jamming my throat as I wanted to scream for all of my sisters, scream for all of my brothers, and scream for our children who stand to inherit our mess.
In a culture known for selling fast, nutritionally empty food, our society is filled with plenty of empty headed preaching evangelist’s looking for hungry followers, and there’s more than enough of us willing to pull up a cafeteria tray and listen.
Whether you experienced the original wound of poor mothering or the first hints of wounding that happened way back in grade school, it seems we’ve all been touched by the hurt of another female.Some of us heal, while others of us remain forever hurt inside — scared to once again trust.
After the recent terrorism attacks, it doesn’t take a negative personality to wonder if our world is going to hell. So how can we stay balanced and what can we do? Well, first we can start with what not to do.
Experiencing a dark bout of worry in the middle of the night or while trying to relax is something most of us are no stranger to. Here’s how to get yourself out of it and back to peace again.
Have you ever experienced your day and your mood getting ambushed by circumstances outside your control?
Unless you live high upon a mountaintop in a cave far, far away, I’m betting your answer is yes.
Life is going to happen, but staying in a bad mood is optional. Here’s how to change a bad mood fast.
Maybe the second half isn’t so much about what we want to do, but what we won’t do anymore.
You found us right after college, chased us through our careers, into our relationships, and finally pinned us down after the fall.
Transitional seasons – it’s as if Mother Nature suddenly has A.D.D. or as the artist Sting sings- she can be all four seasons in one day! Warm one day and windy the next, then rains come or if it’s cold enough- snow appears on our car windows. If we’re not careful, we’ll find ourselves smack dab […]
He’s attractive, kind, nice and giving, so what’s the problem? Why do we shut down sexually and put him in the friend zone?
Love — obviously a hot and tricky topic — Good love takes time and effort to be strong and lasting, yet love can also be fragile and seems to fall apart when the ball gets dropped in these eight common ways: 1. Skimming over past pain. This one is a biggie. Once we pass the age […]
There are key differences between happy people and unhappy people. Here are habits we can all practice daily and when times get tough.
Today- the shortest day of the year heralds the return of light here in the northern hemisphere. Can you feel it? Regardless of where you are, today’s daylight is fleeting and the dark stillness of winter is calling. Even as we light our candles and Christmas lights to offset the darkness, springtime still feels eons away; yet tomorrow the […]
The holidays are upon us and if we’re not careful, so is burnout. Foods we don’t usually eat, later nights than usual, holiday expectations, family dynamics and the financial stress of gift buying can send even the strongest person right over the edge. It’s no surprise so many of us start the new year feeling exhausted […]
Let’s talk about the overwhelming, exhausting amount of digital clutter you have in your life. Remember when you first got mail? It was fun and exciting to see who sent mail every morning wasn’t it? Remember Meg Ryan in Sleepless in Seattle? Email was exciting, even romantic. And now? (sound of record scratching!) It’s exhausting. […]
I often teach about happiness and what has become exceedingly clear is this: there are 7 qualities chronically unhappy people have mastered. According to Psychology Today, University of California researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky states: “40% of our of our capacity for happiness is within our power to change”. If this is true and it is, there’s […]
“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein Even though we know Albert Einstein was right, most of us continue to do the same old things and think the same old thoughts, while hoping for life to be different. We do the things we do because habits […]
Change isn’t easy, if it were we wouldn’t have to try, we’d just do.
Changing is like shaking up one of those jars filled with sand and water.
Have you recently gone through a break up? Whether this break up was your idea or your partner’s, it really doesn’t matter does it? There’s no greater pain than watching the hopes and dreams you shared between the two of you disintegrate before your eyes. What I’m not going to give you is a bunch […]
Via Writer Amy Segreti: Let me be clear: Tamara Star is a total wonder woman wrapped up into a gorgeous, tall, sometimes shy, fiercely feminine package. She is also my friend; I believe in her deeply, and she’s created a truly special 40-Day Personal Reboot program just in time for the swift-moving, productive energy waves of Fall. She’s put her heart and soul into it, and I wanted to share it with you through an exclusive interview with her.
Can you feel it lately? It’s intense and most of us are wondering what the hell is going on. Here’s how to ground yourself and cope.
You say you want happiness. We all do. But the truth is, you’re scared shitless of it. Completely bat shit crazy of having it because lo and behold if you get it, if you experience it and get used to experiencing it, you just might lose it. Here’s a little 411 for you: so am I, and so is everyone.
New relationships mean new opportunities for love and happiness; they also mean new chances to miss the mark. Keep yourself savvy by avoiding these five common dating mistakes.
I don’t need to tell you that stress is a killer, but I do need to share with you that like happiness, stress is a choice. How we respond to any situation in life is dictated by our habits and our beliefs. Here are 50 ways to leave your stress, and while none involve getting […]
Unfortunately, too many of us make a brief effort and then go on auto pilot forgetting that it takes consistent practice to master the art of love; yet when we do make the effort, we create a masterpiece that never grows boring to look at.
Well, it’s undeniable that winter is looming. Days are growing shorter and the dark nights have grown longer.
Here are 10 ways to stay well this winter.
There are a zillion books on love — obviously a hot and tricky topic– and while I agree that good love takes time and effort, I also know that love falls apart because we drop the ball in 8 common ways.
Making use of this introspective dark time in a fast moving world is what maximizes the fertility of the season. When we take care of ourselves through the winter months and take note of nature’s dormant period, we emerge into the springtime recharged and refreshed rather than drained, bored, and, well, larger than before.
Sometimes life blows up doesn’t it? 7 years ago my own life did and I survived. I make it a rule to never take advice from someone who hasn’t been there, so I’ll share with you what happened, and then I’ll share how I got through my own personal tunnel of hell. In a 30 […]
When people reminded me that time heals all wounds and this too shall pass after my break up, I wanted to kick them in the teeth. If you’re experiencing the I-can’t-get-out-of-bed heartache or the I’ll-never-feel-like-me-again heart break, you know what I’m talking about. At this point, if it’s truly over, you’re going to need to […]
It may sound crazy, but the amazing brain with its many functions and miracles, really does dictate your life experience.
Feng Shui for attracting love. The most important corner of your home and any room is the relationship corner.
When we enhance the positive of our homes and limit the negative, this energy can flow unrestrained in harmonious ways. Health, money and love come easier and our homes suddenly feel like the refuge from the world they were meant to be.
Ah a new season! And it seems right now is the time to hit the universal reset button for new beginnings and fresh starts. If you’re not wanting to hire a coach or sign up for a life makeover, keep reading. I’m going to show you how to take charge of your own life, and get your own do over.
Should We Treat The People We Love Like Dogs? In a society that seems to have given up on long term relationship, we’ve lost our desire to make things last. Most of us consider our current love to be Mr or Mrs right now versus Mr or Mrs right, and dispose of the relationship at […]
Feeling a little out of balance lately? Here are my favorite ways to re-balance, find center, and move forward from a peaceful place rather than from a place of reaction. 1. Close your eyes and slowly inhale through your nose to the count of 8, then hold for a count of two and slowly release […]
Domestic Violence outside the obvious signs of physical abuse such as pushing, grabbing, and hitting can be subtle.
Here are 10 things you’ll need to give up in exchange for your happiness.
Are you ugly on the inside? Are you?
The anti-aging industry is a 2.5 Billion dollar industry. Kind of takes your breath away doesn’t it? The truth is, we all want to look our healthiest and if you’re starting to show your age a bit, you’d probably like to look a bit more radiant. Even though we try our best to eat healthy, […]
Here are five reminders of what not to do in the presence of Mr. or Mrs. Maybe Right.
Life is going to happen, but staying in a bad mood is optional. Here’s how to change a bad mood fast.
Morning smoothies are easy on the go nutritional breakfast options, but just like energy bars, not all smoothies are alike.
Here’s an actual part of my 40-day personal reboot program. This week we dove into money! I hope you enjoy it. And if you want to dive deeper and join me on the next reboot, you can get more info right here. Here are 18 minutes of my 60-minute call: You can also download […]
Psst! Come here little girl, I’ve got some candy for you.
Don’t worry, it’s free and I can get you as much of it as you’d like.
What? You don’t want to take candy from a stranger? I’m no stranger, I’m your mirror. Come closer, have a taste, you’ll like it, I promise.
There was never an off switch, there was always something more to do, and I never felt satisfied with a job well done because there were always a zillion more things to get done.
There’s an old saying: What you see is what you get. Science has now proven that
Work, clean, workout, kids, career, groceries, spouses, bills, friends, commitments, and repeat.
Whether we’re married or single, working or in school, there just doesn’t seem to be much time for self-care anymore.
Those tiny quiet moments we used to enjoy at stop lights, commuting on trains, and waiting for appointments are gone and now replaced with
Today was an ass kicker kind of a day. I’m talking the accidentally get your foot stuck in a horse stirrup and be dragged face down in the dirt sort of day. Astrologers tell me that the crap you want to leave behind in life comes up in your face right before your birthday, and […]
Tamara Star talks about jealousy’s effect on our happiness.
Want to save the world? Rise up within yourself. When you see ignorance, speak up the words of truth tangled in your throat. When you witness despair, heal your own internal broken parts cast aside and forgotten. When you know a heartless world filled with forgotten people, reclaim your own secret past hidden in fear. […]
Women who don’t truly trust other women. It’s almost a dirty sentence to read isn’t it?
We women are masters of change. We’re also masters of beating ourselves up daily. Self-improvement is one thing, but self abuse is quite another. Here are five things every woman needs to give up, leave behind and drop. 1. Waiting for Mr./Mrs. right to come along before making major life plans. Too often I hear clients say […]
What I’m about to share with you is the antithesis of everything we’re taught. As I opened one manhole of dark memories, another would appear before my eyes and I dove in willingly- I had nothing to lose because I was already lost.
Forget new year’s resolutions! Here are 3 things to launch you into the new year with grace.
I don’t care? Stay with me here… This isn’t about giving up on caring for others, the planet, or what really matters, it’s about something entirely different. We don’t have to dig deep to hear of the unfolding of the feminine inside all of us. Feminine as in balanced feminine, not femme fatale weak and helpless. For me? I got […]